How I’m Learning to Love on Valentine’s Day
There is something that I have to confess: I used to hate Valentine’s Day. I was one of those people who always said that we don’t need a specific day to show our loves how much we love them by spending money on flowers and other gifts.
But, with age comes maturity. And with a failed marriage also comes the ability to see in hindsight how things could have been better. How I could have been better.
This morning, Laurie at The Glam Farmhouse posted about this very topic and how she enjoys the day and she and her husband do give each other gifts, along with their kiddos. My comment was somewhere along the lines of how the world can use more love and kindness, so why not one day specifically for that?
One thing I haven’t discussed on my blog is that I am getting a divorce. My husband and I started officially dating 14 years ago on the 22nd. I won’t discuss the details of why, but just know that sometimes you try and try and you fight to keep it going and it just isn’t meant to. Or some obstacles are just too much to overcome, especially when there is a loss of trust.
But know that I am at peace with the decision and am working on loving myself and forgiving myself. I am working on becoming the best version of myself and everyday I strive to be better than the day before. I’m not perfect and never will be, but I am capable of loving and being loved and being kind and understanding. I am writing the next chapter of my life. It isn’t a disaster, but a new beginning.
So, here’s to self-love! And Happy Valentine’s Day!